Relationship Fitness

S13 Communication Basics E10: Have the Conversation

In “Relationship Workout for Men,” Season 13 Episode 10 titled “Have the Conversation,” Vince tackles the necessity of engaging in challenging conversations within relationships, despite the multitude of excuses to avoid them. He emphasizes the critical nature of addressing issues head-on to prevent resentment buildup, foster understanding and empathy, and ultimately, resolve conflicts. Vince outlines ten compelling reasons to prioritize difficult conversations, from promoting relationship health to ensuring emotional well-being. Through this episode, Vince encourages listeners to confront problems directly, highlighting that the benefits of open, honest communication far outweigh the discomfort of tough discussions, setting a foundation for improved communication skills explored in the next episode.

Welcome to Relationship Workout for Men, a podcast dedicated to helping men be intentional in choosing a better partner, and being a better partner for the person they choose.

Season 13: Episode 10: Have the Conversation

In this episode, we explore Relationship Workout Communication Basic #9: Have the Conversation.

Let’s face it, there can be plenty of excuses why not to have a potentially challenging conversation. For one, you two are undoubtedly busy. It’s really easy to make other things a priority over having what might very well become an argument. That’s certainly understandable though, as most of us really don’t relish the idea of talking about something that might lead to conflict. It’s much more fun to just do things that are fun, or at least neutral like sitting in front of the television, versus sitting in front of each other talking about an issue.

However, addressing issues in a relationship, even when it involves difficult conversations that might lead to conflict, is crucial for several reasons; here are ten of them to consider:

1. Preventing Resentment Buildup: Ignoring issues allows resentment and frustration to build up over time. This can eventually lead to more significant problems or even the breakdown of the relationship.

2. Promoting Understanding and Empathy: Having difficult conversations helps both partners understand each other’s perspectives and feelings. This understanding fosters empathy and strengthens the emotional bond.

3. Problem Resolution: Discussing issues is the first step towards resolving them. Without open communication, problems remain unresolved and can worsen over time.

4. Building Trust: Engaging in difficult conversations, even if they might lead to conflict, shows a level of trust in the relationship. It demonstrates a belief that the relationship can withstand challenges and grow stronger.

5. Improving Communication Skills: These conversations are opportunities to improve communication skills. Learning to express oneself clearly and listen empathetically is vital for any healthy relationship.

6. Setting the Foundation for Future Conversations: Successfully navigating difficult conversations sets a precedent for handling future conflicts. It creates a framework for effective problem-solving and mutual support.

7. Ensuring Emotional Health: Continually ignoring problems can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Addressing issues as they arise contributes to the emotional health of both partners.

8. Clarifying Expectations and Needs: Difficult conversations often bring to light unmet expectations and needs. Understanding these is key to fulfilling each other’s needs more effectively.

9. Promoting Personal Growth: Difficult conversations can be challenging but also rewarding. They promote personal growth, maturity, and a deeper understanding of oneself and one’s partner.

10. Maintaining Relationship Health: The overall health of a relationship relies on the ability to tackle tough issues. Relationships where partners can discuss problems openly tend to be more resilient and satisfying.

Put simply, issues don’t automatically go away by themselves. Rather, unresolved issues can build on top of each other, turning into a huge mound of relationship baggage that ultimately can bury a relationship. If you care enough to give this relationship a chance for success, then at least show up enough to try to talk through the difficult stuff.

A few more things. One, don’t let it go so long that the issue has now multiplied into countless versions of the original problem. 

And two, don’t wait until the details surrounding the issue are too sketchy to remember what really happened, leaving you with sour perceptions and no true facts to go on. 

That said, consider utilizing the Relationship Journal at to journal details around things bothering you. In this way, you can look back on your journal entries to refresh your memory regarding your point of view closer to when the issue was impacting you.

So, in summary, while having what very well could be a difficult conversation can be uncomfortable, the long-term benefits of addressing issues directly far outweigh the temporary discomfort. Confronting problems head-on to foster a stronger, more open, and more understanding intimate relationship. 

This naturally leads us to Relationship Workout Communication Basic #10: Improve Your Communication Skills, so you can be a better communicator which can reduce the risk issues in need of discussion with your partner turn into conflict and drama. And this is the topic of our next episode.

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