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S15: Ten Communication Topics E5: What is Your Gut Telling You?

In “Relationship Workout for Men,” Season 15 Episode 5 titled “What is Your Gut Telling You?”, Vince explores the thin line between intuition and fear in decision-making within relationships. He discusses how intuition can serve as a powerful guide, filtering through noise to make pivotal decisions, yet warns of confusing these gut feelings with fears stemming from past experiences. Vince delves into the importance of discussing these feelings with your partner, revealing how such conversations can enhance understanding and shed light on one’s motivations, like the decision to throw a surprise party against one’s better judgment. Through this episode, Vince encourages listeners to discern between genuine intuition and misplaced fear, fostering deeper connections and informed choices in their relationships.

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Season 15 Episode 5: What is Your Gut Telling You?

In this episode, we explore “What to Talk About” Topic #5: What is your gut telling you, separating intuition from fear.

This can be a tough one. After all, our gut (i.e., our intuition) can be a powerful early warning ally in guiding our decision-making process. Our gut can also be our bullshit filter as well. In fact, many people largely go by what their gut tells them when making big decisions.

What makes this a difficult one is we can confuse what our gut is telling us with fear borne from past traumas. For instance, your gut could be saying “Run, you don’t want to go through another painful breakup like the last one!” However, this current-day relationship could be nothing like the last one. Instead, the fear may be based on just not wanting to get hurt again and may have nothing to do with the quality of this most recent relationship.

In any case, talking about what your gut is telling you to your partner can open a door to further understanding. It allows her to hear that facet to your point of view that could very well be influencing your story. 

There may also be insight to share in those times when you don’t follow your gut. 

For instance, returning to our example, his gut might have told him not to throw her a surprise party, but he went ahead with it anyway, not trusting his gut. Why? Well, she threw him a surprise party a few months before and he thought it would be nice to return the favor. By sharing this, he allows her to see deeper into his intentions. In this case, he was trying to show her gratitude by giving back to her a birthday party, like the rather great birthday party she threw for him. Maybe he’ll realize that next time if his gut is telling him not to do something like throw her a birthday party, he should talk to her about it first.

Okay, so that’s a quick discussion on “What to Talk About” Topic #5: What is your gut telling you, separating intuition from fear.

In the next episode, we explore “What to Talk About” Topic #6: How is Your Identity Wrapped Up in the Issue?

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